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Daniels Mommy · Posted: July 26 2006, 2:09 AM Post subject: Potty Training

Can anyone tell me at what age their children potty trained. Daniel is now 6 and showing no signs. He will sit on the potty for ages and pee but a #2 is a different story. This morning I kept him on the potty for 40 minutes and it is the first time in ages that he actually did a #2. Exactly 15 minutes later (after he had a diaper on) I could "smell" he had gone in his diaper again. I am absolutely at my wits end and he knows the difference between yes and no so if you ask him "do you want to poo" he will say no and 5 minutes later, he would have done his thing in his diaper. Any advice, suggestions would be welcome as I am not sure if this is being naughty or a DS thing (he is also autistic). Please help!!

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Hannah's mom · Posted: July 26 2006, 6:34 PM Post subject:

Hannah was five before she was fully trained and we just got her night trained recently(she's seven) I don't have too much advice. I think for Hannah it was consistancy especially at school-she wants to be like the other kids. I know a couple people with a dual diagnosis and those kids are not potty trained either so you are not alone! Also I have heard boys are tougher than girls(my 3 year old son was horrible to potty train.)I am sorry I can't help too much but understand your frustration.

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victoria'smom · Posted: July 29 2006, 11:47 AM Post subject:

hang in there, victoria is five and she just started we have gone a week and a half and she hasnt had any accidents YIPPEEEEEEE!!! i just wanted to say i know how u feel , especially with askn her do u have to go to the potty ,, no... five minutes later potty or worse . we make a big production when she uses the potty clapping and lots of verbal celebration so now when we go to the bathroom she ll come in and start clapping and yelling verbal encouragement, as im 43 im guessin i need all the encouragement i can get Wink

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mamatarling · Posted: August 01 2006, 6:18 AM Post subject:

I was wondering where you were. Thank you so much for the postcards. Peter and his class loved them. Peter was 7 when he was potty trained. He was on a strict schedule. We brought him about every hour for about 15 minutes. He wore underwear the whole time. We would bring him to the bathroom and see that he was dry we would praise him up and down for keeping dry. When he went to the bathroom in the toilet he got all the praise but also a little prize. If he went poop in the toilet we would really praise him and give him a prize. If he had an accident in his pants we would take him to the bathroom and change him, but make no eye contact and do it silently. We would not speak to him at all or hug him or anything else. We did not act mad at him, we just completely ignored what happened. It was hard because I would want to say something but I couldn't. The whole process took a few weeks of a strict schedule. The key is no pullups whenever possible. The only time I could put one on Peter was during church. The times we would have him sit on the toilet with no success, we would ignore. We would only acknowledge the successes. Which is only 1 hour a week so it wasn't a big deal. He is still not trained at night, but I think he is getting there.

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Mary Beth · Posted: August 04 2006, 1:02 PM Post subject:

This is a daily struggle at my house. Sam is 9 1/2 yrs old and still not potty trained. He is usually dry through the night but will not do his dirty work in the potty. He will sometimes pee in the potty for me in the morning or sometimes when he is put in bed he will get out and go to the bathroom and go pee in the potty, but most of the time he just pees in his pants. We took a trip to Michigan earlier this summer and we were gone for three days. Sam did not pee or poop in his pants while we were on the trip. It's the first time I've seen him go to the bathroom on his own to go poop. We thought we finally had him doing it but when we got home he pooped in his pants again and has not done it in the potty since the trip. This make me soooo mad as I know now that he can do it but is just lazy and refuses to do it. You can't praise him for pooping in the potty if he never does it . He is now in Large size Goodnights pull ups and boy are they expensive. I really want him out of these diapers now but don't know when we will finally get him out. Katarina is 4 and she has been going to the potty for me since she was two but still has accidents every day but usually does her dirty work in the potty. Boys are harder even in the typical population. Good luck.
Mary Beth

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Samantha · Posted: August 20 2006, 5:19 PM Post subject:

mamatarling wrote:

I was wondering where you were. Thank you so much for the postcards. Peter and his class loved them. Peter was 7 when he was potty trained. He was on a strict schedule. We brought him about every hour for about 15 minutes. He wore underwear the whole time. We would bring him to the bathroom and see that he was dry we would praise him up and down for keeping dry. When he went to the bathroom in the toilet he got all the praise but also a little prize. If he went poop in the toilet we would really praise him and give him a prize. If he had an accident in his pants we would take him to the bathroom and change him, but make no eye contact and do it silently. We would not speak to him at all or hug him or anything else. We did not act mad at him, we just completely ignored what happened. It was hard because I would want to say something but I couldn't. The whole process took a few weeks of a strict schedule. The key is no pullups whenever possible. The only time I could put one on Peter was during church. The times we would have him sit on the toilet with no success, we would ignore. We would only acknowledge the successes. Which is only 1 hour a week so it wasn't a big deal. He is still not trained at night, but I think he is getting there.

I have been trying really hard since the end of March to train my son. We tried the "Potty training in a day" technique with Julian and it seemed to really work...at first. Now it's like he's completely backtracking and barely doing it for us. He goes in his pants all the time and he just doesn't seem to care. I like the way you trained your son. Julian, for lack of a better way to describe it, is an attention whore:P. He LOVES getting praise heaped on him. When he goes in the potty we praise him up and down, but it's not working this way. The silent treatment might work with Julian as a reminder that he didn't do things right and that's why he's getting no praise. I'm gonna give this a try because I'm pretty much at my wits end too. Julian is 6, BTW. Gotta update my siggy:P.

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Kate's Mom · Posted: August 25 2006, 7:32 PM Post subject: Re: Potty Training

Daniels Mommy wrote:

Can anyone tell me at what age their children potty trained. Daniel is now 6 and showing no signs. He will sit on the potty for ages and pee but a #2 is a different story. This morning I kept him on the potty for 40 minutes and it is the first time in ages that he actually did a #2. Exactly 15 minutes later (after he had a diaper on) I could "smell" he had gone in his diaper again. I am absolutely at my wits end and he knows the difference between yes and no so if you ask him "do you want to poo" he will say no and 5 minutes later, he would have done his thing in his diaper. Any advice, suggestions would be welcome as I am not sure if this is being naughty or a DS thing (he is also autistic). Please help!!

Oh my! This is my soon to be 6 year-old Kate to a tee! We have been working on this for what seems to be years....I am becoming so frustrated with this part of her disability because she does so well with so many other things and I don't know if it because she truly doesn't understand or if she is just being lazy or some other underlying reason...

My concern now is that she has started kindergarten this week and is being mainstreamed into the typical classroom (which is great) and they know she is not potty-trained but that it may become an issue. She will also be starting a typical daycare next week in the afternoons and again, they know she is not potty-trained and seem to be okay with it but you never know. We were spoiled for the past five years as she was with a program that catered to both typical and special needs children and it was never an issue. They worked just as hard as we did/do with her training. Now I am afraid it will just be when she is at home that we will keep up on it.

We've tried the "Training in a Day" theory, the Potty Pager, the making her go every half of an hour, the sticker/candy chart..... This weekend we are going to try the "no underwear or shorts" thing and see what happens. In any case, I have the carpet cleaner ready!

Good luck and if you find something that works, let me know!

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mom2nicole · Posted: August 28 2006, 3:55 PM Post subject:

Nicole became potty trained right before her 5 th b-day and I had to let her go with out pants on for the day to really crack down on it. Well, she is turning 6 in two weeks and she still has accidents(pee- doesn't want to stop what she is doing) and she still wears a pull up to bed. Good luck I know it is very frustrating.

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mamatarling · Posted: August 28 2006, 4:05 PM Post subject:

Samantha--how are things going with the toilet training. I would have responded sooner but we have been out of town for a couple weeks. It is soooo hard to ignore the behavior because Peter would get upset. He lovede the praise when he had successes so that part was easy but the ignoring and having to look at him with a stone face was horrible, but so worth it. Good luck. Let me know how things turn out.

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broadzilla2006 · Posted: October 18 2006, 9:49 PM Post subject: Whew!

Thank goodness I saw this thread! I have been going insane for YEARS trying to potty train Jenny. Her teacher this year has her wearing undies at school and she does pretty well, but come the time she gets home she immediately goes and puts on her "Curity Sleep Pants". UGH! It doesn't matter how often I take her to the potty, she still wets and soils herself. She will not stay on the potty if I walk away.

I am just glad to know that I am not the only one going thru this.

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Nicola · Posted: October 18 2006, 10:19 PM Post subject:

Gianna has trained all of a sudden just last week. We had talked to her about it for ages and occasionally if she was sitting on the potty for long enough she would do something, but last week we kept her home for the entire week and out of nappies and we were thrilled to bits when she just suddenly got it. She has had no wee accidents for the last 6 days, and just takes herself off to the potty then presents me with the goods when she's done. She's not quite there yet with poo- she lets us know just as it starts to emerge (I know, TMI) but that is getting better quickly. The last three mornings Gianna has woken up dry, which is more than my 5 year old son has achieved!! I am so excited to think that after 12 years of nappies the end is almost in sight.

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friederike · Posted: October 25 2006, 1:06 PM Post subject:

Cecilie was dry during the day when she was about 3 years old. We put her on her potty regulary (when changing diapers, before and after meals, before and after bed) since she was about 18 month old. She showed us, that she wanted to go to the bathroom and it has worked ever since. Right after easter, when she was 3,3 years old she started having dry nappies in the morning. We now put her on the toilet when we go to bed and it works.

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Bri'sMom · Posted: November 06 2006, 11:58 PM Post subject:

Bri was almost 8. Her sister Abby had potty trained at 3 on the nose. Bri just wasn't interested and I tried not to push it. She'd go sometimes but usually relied on pull ups, especially for bowel movements. Ugh! We worked on it at home, at school. It just never clicked. Then the end of school hit. I vowed on the last day of school in June of this year she'd be potty trained and the next day I took the pullups away and put underwear on her. She never went back to them again, not even at night. I didn't do a darn thing but give her underwear! Maybe it was in her head all the time and she couldn't tell me? Maybe she wanted to be like Abby? I don't know! All I know is since June we've basically been trained. Other than a few infrequent accidents.

I can't really offer advice. I can tell you to just hang in there, it'll happen! To quote Bri's favorite book "he will, in his own time."

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vonda · Posted: November 07 2006, 11:09 AM Post subject:

We started with Noah at 3, funny, very funny. Razz

WHAT were we thinking? Shocked

At 5 he was peeing most of the time by himself, but it wasn't until he turned 6 that we could say he was 99.9% trained. He still wants to wear a pull up at night for his own security, but will get up to pee in the middle of the night on his own and always wakes up dry, so I guess we are 100% now, as I can't remember the last time he had an accident either way. He will be 8 in May.

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KatieB · Posted: November 30 2006, 6:58 AM Post subject:

Just began potty training , Matty turned 4 this past Sept. He'll try at school, sometimes go, but trying to get him on the toilet at home, even to sit on it, is usually met with resistance. If he does sit on it, for for a minute or 2, "done, done" and since I don't want to do toilet battle I take him off. He may than deceide to urinate or poop on the floor, and use poop as finger paint, fortunatly he hasn't moved on to walls, just floor and carpets, love that carpet cleaner machine. He usually will just sit in wet undies, won't say a word, until I discover it. I spoke with the Pedi who felt that maybe it's too early, don't rush into undies, get him even to sit on the toilet at about every hour. Also Matty has very low tone, and the Pedi and my husband I wonder how much feeling he has to realize if he has to go. If things don't proceed well in the next few weeks, the Pedi and I will get Matt into seeing the toilet training clinic at Childrens Hosp.
Katie

Katiezieg · Posted: July 28 2007, 12:27 PM Post subject:

well...my brother stopped using diapers at age 10, he kinda just started to go to the potty himself. we would tell him to go potty after he was done eating, in the morning, and right before bed. but now he goes without us telling him which is REALLY nice! but michael has a more severe case of DS so i'm sure your son will start MUCH earlier! you just have to give it time and lots of patience! Smile

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acornnurturer · Posted: August 21 2007, 9:45 AM Post subject:

My now 9yr. old daughter with DS, Katie, potty trained at 7 yrs. of age. I had become very discouraged in this area and had tried many things. But on her seventh birthday we had a special tea party birthday party for her with three of her other special needs friends and their moms. The girls did dress up and ate off real china. It was a very special day. The next day I told Katie that now that she was seven she was a big girl and that all big girls wear underwear, not pullups. We put on the undies and never looked back. She did have accidents but I was very diligent about getting her on the potty every 30-45 mins. or before changing activities. I used the words "staying dry" not going potty. For Katie, once she went potty once for the day she thought she was done. But saying "staying dry" and focusing on that it helped her understand that to do that meant going potty in the toilet lots of times during the day. Katie also started therapeutic horse back riding at that same time. I do believe that the groin muscles exercised in that activity helped her alot. Within a few months of daytime dry she was dry overnight too. It did take almost a year before she started to initiate going to the bathroom on her own. Now she's totally independent in the bathroom although I do still insist on going to the bathroom before we go on an errand. Hope that helps. I'd be glad to discuss further with you. Do not become discouraged, just continue to try to be patient. This is a long and slow process for most of our kids. Best of luck.