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PostPosted: October 10 2006, 10:39 PM    Post subject:
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Has anyone else experienced a lot of emotion with their child's 1st birthday? (If so, does it happen EVERY birthday?) Lately I have been so emotional. Every time I think of the day Nicholas was born, I want to cry. I can't figure out where it is coming from. Maybe it's anxiety, or a release of it. Like a sigh of relief that we made it. We were given a 50% chance of him making it this far. Then I should be jumping for joy. I am not depressed, but just emotional....somber emotional. Thinking about the events that day and the weeks to follow are emotional, but even songs and TV shows are making me weep.

Is this even kind of common? I hope so. I made it thru the last year, I don't need to lose it now!

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PostPosted: October 11 2006, 6:32 AM    Post subject:
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I think it is very common to be emotional over the first birthday. It brings back all kinds of memories, particularly if you got the diagnosis afte birth. I know we enjoyed the 2nd birthday much better--then we celebrated our wonderful girl rather than dwelled on a very stressful time. Keep your chin up!

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PostPosted: October 11 2006, 7:02 AM    Post subject:
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We really went to town with Percy's first birthday to celebrate the fact that she got through the surgery at 3 months old and was blossoming away!

We were pretty emotional thinking about that first year!

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PostPosted: October 11 2006, 8:44 AM    Post subject:
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Carson turned 1 Sept 26. I kind of went through all of the emotions. Mainly I just don't want my baby growing up as fast as that first year went. I would say what you are feeling is pretty normal though.

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PostPosted: October 11 2006, 10:53 AM    Post subject:
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It's OK to feel that way! I started a similar thread just before the big day and I was a mess on the 1st birthday. It breaks my heart that I cried myself to sleep on the day that Alex was born. That is not how it was supposed to be. I knew that my life would change dramatically when we had the baby, but I had no idea just how much my life would really be changed. So while I felt good that I and Alex had come so far over the course of the year, the anniversary did bring back some difficult memories. Our first Christmas was a little difficult for me for some reason as well. Alex's 2nd birthday, however, did seem to be much much easier for me.

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PostPosted: October 11 2006, 9:55 PM    Post subject:
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Thanks for replying. It helps to know that I am not being hit by reality all at once.

We didn't find out anything was wrong until Nicholas was around 30 hrs old. He had went to the NICU a few hours earlier, but that was the first inkling that something wasn't right. We were told at birth that he was perfectly healthy. It's all just thinking about that day, the next day and the weeks that followed. The morning he was born, I was just going in to have a stress test done. I had full intentions on going to work after it was done. Then once the stress test was over the Dr wanted an ultrasound....and then right after that saying the baby was going to be born....that day...immediatly. It was so hard to process. I felt cheated a bit. I really wanted to have contractions. Weird, I know. But it was just over. One minute he was inside, the next minute he was out. There was no time to really prepare since it was 4 weeks before his due date.

Some of it is that he is A YEAR OLD! Where did the time go? He is still my baby, just 3 times bigger....cuter...and sassier! Some things seem like ages ago, but most was just yesterday. I guess I had better get used to that.

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PostPosted: October 11 2006, 10:15 PM    Post subject:
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Yes, I certainly felt very emotional when Daniel turned 1. My biggest regret is how much I cried on the day he was born, no baby (especially our angels) deserves that. I have vowed to let those sad feelings go and on his first birthday, at the moment was born....my husband, my daughter and myself kissed and kissed and kissed him and told him how much we loved him. I told him I was sorry for crying when he was born. My tears were out of fear, but now I know there is nothing to fear about my precious angel. I can honestly say my sadness has been replaced with an overwhelming sense of joy, peace and gratitude for being chosen to raise this amazing little boy.

I hope you are feeling better and many happy thoughts and prayers as Nicholas enters his 2nd year!!

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PostPosted: October 13 2006, 6:25 PM    Post subject:
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I cried in the aisle at Party City. Part of it was "wow, what a year." Part was, "I'm finally a mommy!" and part was the thought of Clara growing up and away from me. You never get that baby year back! Even your grandkids belong to their parents. I'm going to be a basket case when she starts school.

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