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maxfli
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PostPosted: July 21 2001, 3:13 AM    Post subject:
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I am the Father of an 11 year old daughter with Down Syndrome. She is the love of my life. In April her teacher and her aid overheard her talking about sexual things that they felt were inappropriate and therefore decided that they should contact the authorities, namely in Michigan, the Child Protective Services. Needless to say when they came and took my daughter out of my home I was appalled and shocked. I will tell you that I have passed a polygraph and my daughter has been examined by two Physicians and both concluded that there was never any sexual abuse. When my daughter was born she was in intensive care for 16 days, her name is Nicole Marie Sharp, she almost died. I love her more than life itself, and I have been told I cannot talk to her until the courts decide if we are worthy to keep custody of her. I must tell you that I would never think of doing anything that the case worker has accused me of, but they insist something must have happened to her or she wouldn't have said the things that the worker claims she said. I maintain, and by the way my wife does too, that they do not understand Down Syndrome at all. They only are referencing their experiences on "normal children" which I and my wife believe is rediculous at best. Trust me, I would die for my daughter before I would EVER do a thing to harm her in any way. I am only posting this because I want all parents of our special children to be aware that at any time someone intent on doing "the right thing" can take your child away if they believe you are not treating them the way they see fit. I look forward to any help or suggestions as to fight this injustice. Thank you very much Dennis Lee Sharp



By the way her birthday is August 1st and I am not allowed to be there when she turns twelve, please help me I AM a good father my other two sons would tell you so.

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PostPosted: July 21 2001, 10:18 PM    Post subject:
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Wow...
Make sure you get the best family law lawyer you can! If you can't afford one then get legel aid....

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PostPosted: July 22 2001, 9:22 PM    Post subject:
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Hi, my husband and son Noah (2 with Ds) recently fell down a flight of stairs together and my son broke his leg in the fall. I can't tell you how GUILTY I felt when the ambulance crew arrived at our house. I mean it was a total accident and I was SO upset, but couldn't help but think that deep down inside they could have thought that I had something to do with the fall, maybe pushed them both down the stairs. I didn't of course, but there are so many cases of child abuse out there that one might conclude that this was one of those cases. I know that the laws are there to protect children in child abuse cases, and that's great, but people also have to keep in mind that accidents DO happen too. No one ever accused us of child abuse and no questions were asked, I guess, because my husband was also hurt in the accident had a lot to do with it, but a lot of people have asked me whether or not child abuse was ever brought up during the hospital stay, because of the many cases they see, and I was just floored. If they had accused me, it would have just been my word against theirs. There were no witnesses here. I know your case has completely different circumstances, but the thought that someone could accuse me of something I didn't do would just be horrible. I guess the more you try to convince others of your innocence, the more guilty you seem to look. I know that's how I'd feel. Have they ever thought that someone might have put these ideas into your child's head, or maybe she just overheard similar circumstances and made up her own story? I hope things work out for you and you get your child back soon. Let us all know how things work out. Vonda
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PostPosted: July 23 2001, 11:05 AM    Post subject:
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You need to get legal help, if you have not already. The reality right now is that our legal system sucks if you are unfairly accused. I think that you are fortunate that this is not 10-15 years ago, when literal witch-hunts were being conducted on the flimsiest evidence. If in fact you are innocent, there is no magic in it - you must prevail before some authority, probably, evenutally in a courtroom. I would only trust an attorney to press the points that you have already raised - but your attorneys passion will be more focused on winning the case, not proving your points - they are not the same.
I have been suspicious of any and all state-funded persons entering my home since the birth of my daughter - I am fearful of exactly this sort of scenario.
I hope that this can be resolved soon. This has got to be horrible. I will be praying that you can keep your cool until it is resolved. That would be the hardest part for me. . .
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PostPosted: July 23 2001, 3:12 PM    Post subject:
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If you are sure your child did not pick any of this stuff off the T.V. (which is possible if allowed to watch adult programming) I would agree with Vonda that you might want to look further into the possibilities that someone is or has been sexually abusing your daughter. It is hard to believe but usually it is someone you know and is close. It could be one of her uncles, a babysitter or even an older sibling.
That expression where there is smoke there is fire may very well apply to your daughter.

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